Our team of child behavior experts is on a mission to disrupt what we as a society consider “normal” child behaviors. With terms like terrible twos, we’ve normalized unwanted behaviors like whining, tantrums, hitting, biting, and refusal to follow directions. But what if we didn’t accept these as “normal”? What if you could enjoy your child’s behavior at 2 years old instead of “hanging in there”?
Why wait around to see if your child develops unwanted patterns of behavior that are “bad enough” later in childhood? Or do you want to be the expert of your child’s behavior now? Would you rather continue to endure the whining, refusals, and tantrums, or begin enjoying your child’s behavior? Because if we all decide these behaviors are normal, we then resign ourselves to endure instead of teach better behavior.
Are you waiting for your child’s behavior to get “bad enough”?
You see, children are super efficient with their behavior. They rarely continue to engage in any behavior, positive or negative, unless it serves them in some way. If the unwanted behavior is continuing, it is working for your child. We know children continue to do things to get attention, privileges, and access to toys. But ignoring isn’t the only answer, as that same behavior may successfully helps your child delay, avoid, or escape something. And even addressing those two reasons, your child is still missing skills. Your reaction, or lack thereof, doesn’t teach new social skills. What else would you like your child to do instead next time?
Pretend You Are A Light Switch!®
Our Consultants teach parents and teachers how typical brain development impacts your ability to teach better behavior. In our practice, we see parents and teachers inadvertently teaching at the most inopportune time, when your child’s brain is actually trying to block additional stimulation to protect him/her. Because our frontal lobes don’t finish developing until we are 18-24 years old, our children don’t yet have reasoning, problem solving, and other higher level cognitive skills. Because of this, the brain is designed to protectively shut down when your child experiences stress beyond her skill set. We refer to this as the “light switch” and teach you to Pretend You Are A Light Switch!® This happy little metaphor is packed with science regarding how and when to teach behavior regulation and social skills. We teach you how your “light switch” may be off during these behavioral episodes. When your “light switch” is off, your ability to reason and problem solve is also disrupted. We help you sync your “light switch” and your child’s so that you are both in the optimal position to teach and learn.
Teach Pivotal Social Skills to Children Ages 2-10
Rather than reacting to unwanted behavior all day, we teach parents and teachers to focus on prevention, by teaching new skills. Over the past 7 years, we have identified several pivotal social skills to teach to prevent or replace unwanted behavior as early as 2 years old. We teach children to tolerate being told ‘no’ or to tolerate not getting their way. We teach them to transition between activities, make a choice, or follow instructions the first time. These skills can prevent or replace the “normal” whining, crying, screaming, hitting, refusing to do something, and tantrums of early childhood.
If you are just meeting us, we invite you to join us on a webinar to learn more about our approach. While our educational webinars inspire, many find it difficult to translate the content to actual behavioral episodes with your child. You can quickly learn to implement the strategies correctly when an expert shows you how to do so and then coaches you to successfully do so. If you feel like you’ve tried everything, our Consultation to Parents program is for you.
Monthly Behavior Webinars!
Register for December 2018 webinars: “My Child Avoids (Almost) Everything!”
Does your child tend to avoid or control things? One of the most common reasons for unwanted behavior in early childhood is that it serves to help the child delay or escape the current demands. Whether passively or actively, we have seen children as young as 2 years old with a great set of avoidant behaviors already developed. We have many examples of parents of 3-7 year olds saying they heard about Behave Your Best when their child was 2 and unwanted behaviors seemed “normal” then, but their child didn’t “grow out of it”. The longer we wait to address what starts as passive resistance, the greater the likelihood of needing to address active resistance as that child gets older. Our goal with this webinar is to help you recognize the subtle patterns of avoidance and control in your children as early as possible, so you can teach your child more appropriate skills before it gets “bad enough”.
Only $27 for all sessions! Join us for one or all 3! Register now!
8:30 PM – 9:00 PM CT
Wednesday, December 5th
Tuesday, December 11th
Thursday, December 20th
Looking for some FREE Toilet Training education? Click the button below for our Toilet Training Get Started Kit!
- Toilet Training Progress Log – Use this to collect baseline information to guide your first steps. Use your child’s data to make decisions about next steps throughout the toilet training process.
- Why Should I Use Reinforcement? – You’ll learn why toilet training is one skill that we recommend an artificial system of reinforcement temporarily to teach the new skill.
- Guide to Wise and Efficient Use of Reinforcement – You’ll learn how reinforcement is carefully applied to ever-changing behavioral criteria (i.e., baby steps) in order to prevent dependency on or expectation of reinforcement.
- Top 4 Toilet Training Baby Steps – Every child we have supported to use the toilet has mastered these 4 steps at some point or another. Use this guide to identify where to start with your child.
- How to Gradually Fade Reinforcement – Now that your child has mastered toilet training, we recommend you gradually eliminate any extra reinforcement you added to teach the skill.
Address any behavior concerns with your child before a sibling arrives! Click the button below for our Prepare Siblings for Baby’s Arrival free download!
- Preparing Older Siblings for a Baby Tip Sheet
- 5 Reasons to Teach Your Child Tolerance of Your Divided Attention BEFORE Baby Arrives
- Promoting Independence Tip Sheet
- Toddler and Preschooler Sleep Tip Sheet
- Infant Sleep Tip Sheet
- Toilet Training Tip Sheet