How To De-Escalate
Your Escalated Child
Digital Program
How To De-Escalate
Ready to stop walking on eggshells around your child’s meltdowns?
Imagine the calm of knowing exactly what to do when tantrums, refusals, or backtalk start. Picture how much lighter your days would feel when outbursts no longer derail bedtime, family outings, or playdates.
“How To De-Escalate Your Escalated Child” is Behave Your Best’s practical, self-paced digital program designed to give you proven strategies to quickly and confidently handle unwanted behavior—without yelling, ignoring, or endless time-outs. Along the way, you’ll build a stronger relationship with your child and discover a toolkit you can use in everyday parenting moments.
Join hundreds of families who have finally found peace at home with our evidence-backed techniques that are grounded in behavioral and brain science.
What Does Behave Your Best's De-Escalation Digital Program Include?
You’ll start with a 50-minute video that will show you exactly what to do when your child’s “light switch” is off. Complete with relatable, step-by-step examples, this video will leave you thinking, “Do they know my child? Have they been in my home watching these tantrums play out?”
Here’s what else you can expect in How To De-Escalate Your Escalated Child:
You’ll receive 6 daily emails packed full of Behave Your Best’s most impactful strategies, clear reminders, and practical tips–making it simple to put what you learned from the video into practice with your child right away.
Recognize your own triggers and learn how to get your “light switch” back on quickly with the printable tip sheet, “I Have a Light Switch Too.” This simple tool helps you stay calm and in control—because an escalated adult can’t help an escalated child.
Use the printable worksheet, “I Am the Master of My Light Switch”, to create a plan for managing your own “light switch.” Just like with your child, it’s worth repeating: an escalated adult cannot de-escalate an escalated child.
Reflect on, customize, and perfect the strategies from the video with the printable “Silent Strategies Checklist”. Use it after an episode of unwanted behavior to pause, take a breath, and build your confidence in de-escalation skills.
We’re surprised how many parents haven’t tried box breathing—a simple, effective way to lower your heart rate and reset your “light switch.” We guide you through the process of box breathing so that you have another tool to help you stay calm and in control when it matters most.
Reference our printable, downloadable tip sheet, “5 Tips To Talk Less”, to remind you to talk less! Download and print this tip sheet in a few high traffic areas of your home as a visual reminder to help you actually implement these silent strategies.
Discover how you can use your attention strategically to encourage your child’s desired behaviors and reduce attention for unwanted behaviors with the printable tip sheet, “Doses of Attention”.
Learn How To De-Escalate Your Escalated Child
Imagine where you could be next week at this time. Your child gets frustrated, but you stay calm and confident. Tantrums and power struggles are no longer taking over your day. You have more time and energy to enjoy moments with your child, whether it’s a board game, a fun outing, or peaceful family time at home.
“How to De-Escalate Your Escalated Child” is a bite-sized, self-paced digital program for parents who have tried everything but haven’t yet found strategies that actually work.
You’ll get support through 6 daily emails showing how you can use this system with our children. Printable tip sheets give you visual reminders to put the strategies into action, and the Silent Strategies checklist helps you reflect on your implementation so you can improve each time.
Created by Behave Your Best's Jamie Waldvogel, MS, BCBA, LBA
Jamie Waldvogel is the founder of Behave Your Best and an experienced behavior analyst who has spent her career helping families feel more confident and connected.
She began by supporting parents of children with disabilities, guiding them to see their child’s strengths and find joy in their daily interactions.
When she became a mom, Jamie realized that most parents didn’t have access to the same strategies she relied on at home—strategies that prevent meltdowns and keep the “light switch” on.
Out of this experience, Behave Your Best was born: a way to equip parents with practical tools to reduce stress, respond calmly, and enjoy more of the moments that matter.
Who Our De-Escalation Digital Program Is For
Stephanie
whose children bicker and push each other’s buttons nonstop throughout the day. Her children’s bickering is like nails on a chalkboard, noise that turns her “light switch” off.
Tiffany & Bill
whose son is biting, kicking, and pushing his friends at daycare. As their only child, they felt it was important for him to socialize with other children. She didn’t consider the fact that he may actually display unwanted behaviors that would limit his social interactions.
Kelsey & David
whose 3-year old melts down repeatedly throughout the day over seemingly minor things, like this morning when they gave him cereal with milk in it, even after screaming yesterday when they served him dry cereal and he demanded milk in it.
Lindsey & Chelsea
whose 8-year old daughter doesn’t listen and seemingly does the opposite of what they say, while looking at them with a knowing grin on her face.
Melissa & Joe
whose 4-year old daughter has recently been diagnosed with ADHD, has ants in her pants and cannot sit still. they were hesitant to use medication to manage her symptoms and read that behavior therapy was an evidence-based treatment for ADHD.
“How to De-Escalate Your Escalated Child” is for parents who’ve tried everything, but haven’t found strategies that seem to work. Even if other approaches have failed, we’re confident our program will make a real difference.
It’s also for parents who want to get ahead of challenges before they escalate. You don’t need to wait until your child’s behavior is “bad enough” to seek help. Behave Your Best shows you how to strengthen routines, support your child’s social and learning experiences, and create a calmer, more joyful home.
We’ve bundled $513 worth of expert strategies and support into this program — yours today for just $79.
Our De-Escalation Digital Program, Step By Step
Step 1: Purchase the program here for $79. (Valued at $513)
Step 2: Check your inbox for an email with our video, “How To De-Escalate Your Escalated Child.” Watch the video, take the recommendations that click for you, and start to use them in your routine interactions with your child when they display unwanted behavior.
Step 3: You’ll receive one email per day for the next 6 days, each designed to provide you with tips and tricks that other parents have found helpful as they implemented this program.
Step 4: Learn about your own “light switch.” When you are able to keep your “light switch” on, you are that closer to supporting your child’s “light switch.” The second email you receive focuses on your “light switch.” Review the “I Have A Light Switch Too” tip sheet. Create your own plan with my, “I Am A Master Of My Own Light Switch” worksheet.
Share these with your co-parent. Have them complete the worksheet too. Compare notes and identify how you’ll support each other.
Step 5: The third email you receive will include videos for managing your breathing and heart rate.
Step 6: The fourth email you receive will include the Silent Support checklist. Use this to reflect on your implementation of strategies to support your child’s behavior.
Share these with your co-parent. Have them complete the worksheet too. Compare notes and identify how you’ll support each other.
Step 7: The fifth email you receive will include the “Doses Of Attention” tip sheet. The goal is to use your precious attention to strengthen the desired behaviors you want to see more of and prevent escalation as much as possible.
Step 8: Parents who have used this program have shared that it is so hard to talk less when their child’s “light switch” is off. We created the “5 Tips To Talk Less” tip sheet to serve as a reminder while you are learning this new strategy.
Step 9: Print the tip sheets. Post them in a location where you’ll see them often. Don’t have access to a printer? Review the documents from any device. Set an alert on your device to remind you to review these digital resources as needed.
Step 10: Take a look around your home and smile, knowing you have created the peaceful home you desire and deserve!
Will This Program Actually Work For Me?
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